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14 things to make your life easier in 2018

By 1/15/2018

i hold these truths to be semi-evident - do with them what you will.  i won't say my last year has been 'easy', but certainly easier accepting a few things i can change, and a few things i can't.

wear looser pants
this is sort of revolutionary.  if your pants are loose, you feel less fat.  and if you feel less fat, you worry less about your fat, and you get to pay attention to the other things you were missing while you were focusing on your fat.  i've fully embraced a boyfriend jean, and this whole high-waisted thing has been a real moment for me.  you can still do a little tight, but it's all corseted in, with nothing spilling over or pinching out, and you can stop hiking your jeans up by the belt-loops, looking like a dumbass cowboy without a horse.

get an expandable suitcase
i've done a good deal of traveling in the last couple of years, and i can say - my tumi expandable suitcase is so perfectly versatile for when you want to be your best self and not check bags, and you want to be your best self and do all the shopping to bring back all the things.  it's a big size for a carry-on, and when it expands, you check it and get even more room.  you never know when you're gonna get all the things, so: be ready.

on international trips, keep up with your immigration form
don't forget to bring that damn form back to the airport when you're going home, otherwise you'll pay $30 and feel dumb.  i'm always so stoked to get off the plane at the front end of the trip to start the exploring - and that customs form gets tucked away somewhere and damned if i can find it 7 days later.  jut put it in your passport case.  be an adult.

don’t exaggerate and just tell the truth
perhaps a given to some people, but this hasn't come easy for me.  for a very long time, i over-promised and under-delivered (are these hyphenated words?) and it served as probably the biggest source of stress in my life, in hindsight.  a huge ego camouflaging some core insecurities, mixed with a little authority, a little access, and lot of luck created the perfect storm for some gross and obnoxious behavior..  i wanted to be the leader of the circus, and that took a big ole show propped up with all sorts of exaggerations and untruths, wrapped in humor and absurdity.   it took so much freaking energy to keep it all spinning.  i learned that people start discrediting you when they realize what you're up to - obviously, and that feels shitty.  so, try to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth.  keep exaggeration to a minimum, even when it's funnier not to, and sleep a little easier at night.

don't over-promise
i watched a friend's 9 year old daughter a couple of weeks ago in an interesting interaction.
another mom asked her if she'd like to go snowboarding with their family the following day. 
ella said, 'no, i don't think i do' - very casually and non passive-aggressively. 
the mom offered again and said, 'well if you change your mind, call us'. 
ella said, not rudely, but matter-of-factly, 'ok, but i doubt i will change my mind.  i don't want to go'.
then right back to doing a jigsaw puzzle. 
no guilt, no anxiety, no adult bullshit, no over-promising and then backing out at the last minute. 
how often do you do that? -- you know you really don't want to do something, and you either go do it out of some weird obligation, or you cancel and end up disappointing others and messing up their schedule last minute.  what if you just say what you want and don't want.  this kinda blows my mind.

now that you're not worrying about all the absurd things you said the night before, you're all freed up to worry about other things - and that's where examining the facts comes in.  i've had some real practice with that the last year.  when i get all in a tizzy about something, often creating stories in my head about things that have no real basis in reality, i'm trying to slow it down, and think through what i know to be the facts.  by doing this, i have helped to diffuse the craziest of soap operas from playing out in my imagination, and i've been able to soothe myself through some anxious, lonely, guilt-ridden, panicky times.  and knowing you can take care of yourself - that you have the capacity to talk yourself down, and out of crazytown, is new to me.  and it's really nice, to know you don't have to put that responsibility on someone else.  you can come to new relationships not needing someone, but choosing someone, because you've got you covered.

exercise close to home
before a workout that i've booked (some kind of class usually), i start about 5 hours out coming up with reasons to not go -- but, because my classes are within a mile of my house, i can literally talk myself out of it up until the very last minute, still decide to go and get there on time b/c it's 2 minutes away.  i have time to go though the whole cycle of laziness until i get bored of myself and just go.  then i'm glad.  proximity.

take melatonin
when i'm switching time zones i take a melatonin the first two nights if i'm staying put a while, to get my kardashian rhythms straight.  always works and i have the most entertaining dreams.

take the window seat
i've really been back and forth on this.  i pee an average of 293 times on a flight, so aisle speaks to me, but time and time again i've been glad i smushed into the window seat.  especially flying into beautiful places recently like aspen and mexico.  it gives you just that one little moment of awe - you get to marvel from above, and that's not easy to come by, but always worth it.

don’t go in the sun
it's too damn expensive to keep fixing spots that were cute as freckles but now are just 'spots', undesirable spots. so, just don't get sun.   wear a hat.  sit in the shade.  get a long sleeve black rashguard thing and look mysterious.  this is my reality -- my parents both had some skin cancers, my grandma died of skin cancer, and i'm as pasty as they come so i gotta take this seriously.  99 problems, sun ain't one.

get botox
i mean, i do.  and i don't have a ton of wrinkles.  that frees me up to worry my neck, hands and knees.  move to next item.

put lotion on your neck, hands and knees
i am unsure why my mother and i never covered things like this - like how to put on eyeliner and not look trashy, or to tend to your decolletage.   nonetheless, i'm trying extra hard now because time's been plenty awasted.  my goal is to look less like the fran, the mom from dinosaurs, and really just more ... not like her. 

have dinner parties
my rental house has been perfect for hosting dinner parties - there's a backyard, and a big front porch that can seat about 20.  i love having friends over, and it's fairly simple if you dole out the responsibilities.  most everyone is content if the food is warm, they can take an instagram pic of the table, and we dance for a hot minute at the end.  i mean, where else do we get to dance as adults? 

let go of expectations
again, the last year allowed me to try this one out, and every single time i was surprised by the outcome.  forget how things are supposed to be, how they're meant to be, how they should be - let go.  stop pushing, and manipulating and herding people into their roles.  let it ride, be patient, take a breath and do what you can.  when you let go of an expectation, you're opening yourself up to be thoroughly surprised, even delighted sometimes.  if you think you know how everything should go, then nothing is ever really new, and you're cutting off opportunities for change (scary right!) but worse yet, opportunities for growth.  and we gotta keep growing (through change!) (scary!).

fake it

By 1/11/2018
i've always skimmed through stories on 'how to make a rental your own' and that whole situation -- but now the struggle is real. i'm in a rental, i feel super challenged by decorating it - to the point where i give up and say this is me now, i just don't have 'things' anymore.

this oldie but goodies from the time of domino inspired me to get back to trying - to keep rearranging, and hanging and zhushing and displaying because this is not #fakenews.  i love stuff, lots of it.

renee bouchon

By 1/09/2018
one of our most popular pop-up shop artists is back this am with an exclusive set of collages for furbish.  renee bouchon's little masterpieces make me so happy - they're layers of bright color, kooky textures and pretty pairings that are such a treat hung in a group.  for the first time, we're offering them with the option to custom frame, in a lovely antiqued gold frame and mat which is my fave way to show them off. 

the sale starts at 12 - i'd coffee up and be ready to rock a few minutes before.  last year she sold out in about 7 minutes!  the pieces are all the same size - 9" x 12", and framed, finish out at a nice big size of 15.25" x 18.25".  $250 unframed, and $400 custom framed, ready to hang!


By 1/08/2018

kind of a big deal

By 1/04/2018
just wanted to let you know our big 'out with the old - in with the new' clearance sale is ending, and we upped the discount to an extra 40% off sale prices, making it the best opportunity to snag some fun stuff at the lowest price possible.  go check it out

closet cravings

By 1/02/2018
1 - pile coat free people // 2 - feather earrings lizzie fortunato // 3 - bow detail sweater club monaco // 4 - boots madewell // 5 -high waist leggings nordstrom // 6 - socks stance // 7 - sweater h&m // 8 - pullover nordstrom

drinks on me.

By 12/28/2017
well good morning.  i hope your holidays have been enjoyable, and you continue to celebrate excellent tidings and joy right up into the new year.  i'm doing my very best and the results are in: i'm pretty great.  great for me means occupied (as in my time, not my sovereign land), calm, loved, excited, inspired, fed, binging on a tv series and healthy. 

i've been in colorado for about 10 days.  right this second, i'm at the little nell, a hotel right at the bottom of ajax mountain, in downtown aspen.  i've been breakfasted and now i'm working in the lobby.  it's lovely - light filled, the appropriate upholstery for both style and practicality (why is that so hard for every other hotel to pull off?), and replete with the. best. people. watching. ever.

there are approx. 14 of us crammed on a siberian sofa that runs the length of the window, while the other 5 seating groups sit empty, aside from a bottle of dom peringnon chilling on each coffee table that's apparently the ticket to entry.  i've heard the host tell at least 5 parties who've slumped greedily into the seemingly open seats that you have to buy the bottle, or spend $650 to sit.  at lunch.  it's not even noon.  oh wait, someone just took one.  that leaves 4

there's a doberman that weighs 120lbs beside me, with his nose literally touching my biscotti - his owner is from norway and has at least 4" of height to his hair.  it's enviable.  i'm a girl that wears abercrombie and fitch (like, right now) and the best i can do here is blow my hair straight because i think that somehow conveys i have all the time, electricity and nimble young wrists to tug and wrap my split ends into an effortless swoop.

a family just took another dom table.  lord help.

how about i dump out some updates on my life and times and let's pretend to do it over a bottle of champs.

 redoing the house here is gaining momentum from snail to faster snail.  i ordered a headboard from one kings lane yesterday, and that feels right.

there's a lot of natural wood vibez like this happening all throughout the house - and i'm getting into it with this green color - right?  this is so outside of my box - i'm looking for all the instruction i can find.

gonna try for a few ralph lauren rugs - we're a vendor so that certainly helps the budgeting dept.
 all i really want from my home decoration is to pull things off like maura endres. this ig post was my star of wonder last week. i even bought a faux antler for our wreath, but it looked like a chicken bone hanging from a limb.
so i kept it simple and if you crop the picture real tight and forget about the absence of impeccably styled bar, effortlessly kooky lampshades, perfectly sprouted amaryllis, and some fancy feathers, we're all good.

me presenting my wreath - i got real into them this year, see?

we pretty much had to start from scratch with our ornaments, so i harkened back to a project i'd done with my mom before - i ordered clear glass balls, a set of acrylic paint, some glitter and a couple dozen dixie cups, and we had friends over for crafts and chili.   
basically you take the top off the ornament, pour a generous dollop of paint in, add a couple of colors, glitter to liking, and then either shake or let gravity slowly swirl the paint around the glass.  magical.
also magical - these glasses i found in my stocking.  what a time.
in other shopping news, i scored this coat at club monaco for a bunch of percent off. i feel it's me now.  (it appears grey is sold out but there's pink and navy)
i also recently got this jacket thing from h&m and despite this douchey picture where i look like i'm again, the top-performing real eastate agent in the tri-city area, it's v. attractive in person.  those are the target shoes.  diane von furstenburg's daughter sat at the table next to me at dinner last night, and she thought they were prada.  that's not true at all, but she had on a cuff that was a huge enamel gift bow and it looked cute AF.  oh, and good high-waisted madewell jeans.
additionally, moreover and furthermore (remember when you learned transitional paragraph starter words - I DO!), cj laing just opened downtown and obviously, this gives me an appropriate amount of feels.  they do a winter pom pom moment exceptionally well.

other honorable mentions of the last week go to this cheeseboard duo i crafted for christmas dinner.

these pups at the local shelter who'd just arrived from a reservation in new mexico. there were 9 babies and their momma. they looked like little piglets and they all wanted to pile in my lap. refer to above where i said i'm doing pretty great.  hat is here and sweater w/bows here (on sale!).

and this sweater that's the warmest, softest and most camoflaugiest.

in closing, a favor.  anyone know this fabric?  it's super heavy and the stripes are about 1" wide.  i'd surely appreciate any guesses.

you can still make it work

By 12/21/2017
it's amazing to me, knowing what i know as a retailer (profit margins, shipping costs, overtime, etc) that companies can do this, but madewell and jcrew are offering 30% off your entire order, and it will arrive by christmas.  if you're really up a creek for presents, here are a couple of things that would have to make just about anyone happy.
earrings // sweatshirt // slippers // candle // eye mask // pom pom garland

vogue weddings

By 12/20/2017
i've traveled to the depths of the vogue weddings archive and now, reemerged i'd like to share a taste of what kept me scrolling through slideshows late into the evening while i ate thin crust pizza from dominos because 1/4 of the pizza is only like 100 calories and i only ate 4 of those.

my big takeaway - hannah bronfman.  obsessed.