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overshare

By 5/28/2018


i used to share more of my personal life with you.  the first 7 years or so yal saw everything, from my cats' birthdays to home projects with brian meares, from making t-shirts to starting furbish with my mom, goodwill, gucci, doritos, donkeys, teepees, trips to target, eggs benedict, bookshelves, baby showers - i put it all out there.

but now i stop myself often, because i think 'well this isn't what i used to do.  so i don't want to look like a douchebag'.

here's what I just realized - i haven't been giving yal near enough credit.  i can't imagine you're still the same as you were when you were reading my blog 10 years ago.  like, you haven't changed at all...?  give me a break - i'm dumb.

you probably want to read some different stuff now.  you've seen some things, been through some stuff, lived life and you're way less concerned about my douchebaggery than i am.  you're dealing with your own i imagine.

with that realization we both just made together, let's proceed, and be ok with doing it a bit differently?

we've changed.  so i'm gonna try to be more honest and open, because writing makes me feel good.  having this blog makes me really happy - i feel connected, inspired, it feeds my bratty only-child ego, it allows me to create, it gives me a reason to keep being curious, and more importantly, a platform to share what i find out, which is really at the center of this social media thing we all do these days.  we just want to share our lives with others, with the hope of connecting.


LORD HELP I JUST READ THAT AND I SOUND LIKE I'VE BEEN ON MUSHROOMS IN A NATIONAL FOREST WITH GLOWSTICKS AND A CROCHET TOP ON.  i don't know.


so... the blog's gotta be for chatting right?  because we can't do that over instagram.  we can look but we can't discuss.  let's plan to do that here.

we'll talk real life what's happening.  and of course we'll still look at pretty things to judge, buy, want, move around and generally motivate.  full disclosure, i continue to do a little affiliate linking and 'influencing' on the blog, and that does generate revenue, so the plan is to just maintain a regular clip with that.  if you're severely turned off, holler and i'll twerk on it.  it's important to have your feedback on that.

and we are shooting more real raleigh features.  i have 3 or 4 lined up, and they're consistently awesome  - i remain to be surprised at the gemstones i'm finding in the coolest people's homes here.  it's good for me.  i'm awfully crumdgeonly about raleigh sometimes, so being challenged to seek out what inspires me here is a great practice for me.  and i'm constantly surprised at the goodness i discover.

sidenote here - real raleigh coffee table book.  holiday season time.  do you have interest in that if you're in raleigh?  if you're not in raleigh?  do tell.

alright - enjoy the rest of this rainy memorial day.  the schnauzies are asleep with boredom, the house smells like mildew and all i want is anything with ranch dressing all over it.

37 comments

  1. Overshareaway, please. The blog world is in dire need of a some good content and some decor posts where everything doesn't look homogenous and one of my favorite bloggers has turned into a commercial for one product after another - what happened to posting things we can actually afford to diy, decorate with or buy? And I keep tellin' ya that I love. love the real raleigh!! for real. And I'm in Atlanata but it's because those homes you share are real and relatable and give us ideas we can actually use. Love your blog. I've been reading and commenting since waaay back! Thank you for posting more!!

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    1. mollie's mom - you're the best. thank you for reading, and sharing with me. I always smile when I see your name pop up.

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  2. First-time commenting to say I'm excited to see more personal content. I love your writing and voice, and am excited for more! Your affiliate and influencer work is very well integrated, no complaints there. Tbh yours is the only blog I read anymore. Ah and amen to the douchebaggery, if we aren't all too busy with our own, we should be ;)

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    1. thanks for taking the time to comment and give your feedback - it really is helpful =)

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  3. Hi Jamie! I think you're fab, and I'm always pumped to see a new post from you. I wouldn't even mind if you were in fact posting on mushrooms from a national forest.

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    1. wouldn't that be something?

      thanks for your kind words =)

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  4. I’m totally fine with affiliates. As long as you’re linking to good stuff, go for it.

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  5. I love a good overshare and can't wait to see more Real Raleigh, they are my favs!!

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    1. so glad to see your name pop up =). OG bloggers!

      Hope you're good!

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  6. I've loved your blog from the Get, girl. Happy to read anything you share- from your trips, to advice, to personal stuff with your boo, and of course, real Raleigh. There are 3 of those features I always go back to when I need inspo., cant wait to see more. Whatever you do, or blog about, Im here for it.

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  7. I'll second Nancy - whatever you blog about, I'm here for it.

    I like you honest and open. I want to learn about all of the things you find out, whether its the new fun stores in New York, interior design inspiration, or general life lessons. We're all figuring this sht out and lord knows we could use all of the little knowledge nuggets we can find.

    On the subject of real raleigh - I enjoy reading but would not purchase, though I'm sure you'll have plenty of interest from locals!

    PS if you're considering doing shrooms in a national forest while wearing crochet ... I would be ESPECIALLY here for it

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    1. good feedback Laura - thank you! I'm gonna do my best to throw it wide open a bit more. =)

      tbd on the forest trips.

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  8. Have loved your blog for a long time and would love even more personal writing! Honestly I look forward to any and all of your posts so as long as you keep posting, I'm happy!

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    1. that's really nice of you to say Ellie - thank you!

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  9. I loved your blog back in the day! Hating on design mags, sharing other blog finds (remember Decorno?!), showing your house projects in progress, keeping it real. I would love to see more of the same. I'm glad you're still keeping it up.

    Since you asked and it's the internet: Maybe just give us a heads up when you do post SPON stuff? (Nobody can love Framebridge THAT much, i'm just sayin) Affiliate links are no problem and you have great taste; I will happily give you all my clicks when you share fashion.

    And I know I am the minority here--but "The Real Raleigh" might as well be called "The Really Rich White People of Raleigh". But I am not Southern, so maybe there's just something I'm not getting...

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    1. yes, the days!!

      and thank you for the honest feedback - that's really good to know. and thanks for your support.

      on the real raleigh, I'll do my best to find some new homes that are a bit more diverse!

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  10. I enjoy your blog immensely and would love to read more personal stuff and Real Raleigh posts. I often go back to my favorites for creative inspiration that's relatable and for the sheer curiosity of seeing how others live stylishly at home. Your writing style is fresh, funny and self-deprecating (and thus I don't mind the affiliate links). I recently used many of your helpful travel tips on a trip to New York and had the best time at Freeman's - excellent recommendation! It felt like a cozy little inside secret. Stayed at The Ludlow and spent all my money at John Derian. If you get around to writing a book I will buy it. I live in Atlanta and wish we had a voice like yours here!

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  11. I enjoy your blog immensely. I would love more personal stuff and eager for more Real Raleigh posts. I often go back to my favorites for creative inspiration that is achievable and honest, not to mention for the sheer curiosity of seeing how others love stylishly at home. Your writing is fresh, funny and self deprecating (thus I don't mind the affiliate links). I recently applied some of your travel tips on a weekend trip to New York and had the best time at Freeman's! It felt like a cozy little inside secret. Stayed at The Ludlow and spent all my money at John Derian. Great trip! If you get around to writing the book I will buy it. I live in Atlanta and wish we had a voice like yours here. Please keep writing!

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    1. thanks for taking the time to give such helpful feedback - seriously. I'm so stoked to hear about your nyc trip. isn't it the best to just have a few places that feel really special? my recent trip to nyc I feel like I discovered some new ones, and there's no better feeling.

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  12. Very much look forward to a return to the personal- I enjoyed your updates as much as your products!

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    1. Thank you Jamie!! I'm gonna try to get real, we'll see what happens!!

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  13. Love your blog and love Real Raleigh- esp the homes that look LIVED in and not styled. As for the “oversharing” future of the blog: like you (and probably all women), I have changed a LOT the past 10 Years. And as a woman in my 40s, I know (firsthand) that we all have our stories and don’t get through life unscathed. Therefore, I want blogs with decor and fashion that are grounded in honesty, grit, and laughter. The superficial doesn’t interest me anymore, I admire women who have lived and aren’t afraid to rock their bad-ass selves!!!

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  14. At the risk of sounding too fan-girly, I would be so excited to see some more personal stuff, or even just more glimpses into your very posh life. I follow along on insta pretty aggressively and always enjoy the pics / vids from Aspen then back to Raleigh, then to NY for some naughty life or maybe a new tattoo? I agree with everyone who said it above, the blog world has gotten a bit cray these last several years. I appreciate the transparency on the affiliate links, and realize those do make the paper, so thanks for being so rul about it. xoxox Looking forward to all the personal vibes.

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  15. The blogs I love - the what three or four of them - I love because I think I’d like to hang with the bloggers, drink three cocktails with them & stuff. Thumbs up on real life because we all have our messy closet/junk drawers, and since I found you years ago, mine has accumulated an ex-husband, kids swim goggles, picture hanging nails, and spare dog poop bags to name a few. The bloggers who lost me, the Insta’s I’ve unfollowed, are all annoyingly fake perfect!

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  16. I’ve been reading you since you appeared in the NYT (where I worked! I remember reading that story in the publishing system before it ran) and have loved keeping up with and your style. And now that I actually live in Raleigh, I want to know more about the interiors, and interior lives, of my town. Keep writing. You’re great it. Also, yes on the book. I’d be happy to help edit.

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  17. Will Nick be back doing dance moves?

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  18. the real raleigh is a gem. i live for home tours. so....that's my 2 cents. which isn't really 2 cents it's more like duhmb. but if i were to give some cents it would be perhaps you could expand the real raleigh? atlanta? charleston? i realize the name might prohibit you but happy days had a pretty successful spinoff in laverne and shirley. different strokes had the facts of life. BH 9'er had melrose place. you feel me?

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  19. Yes! To oversharing! And a coffee book! Athens GA here but love the style and homes you feature and always love a beautiful, new book. All the visuals. Thanks for being so open and sharing items outside of the norm.

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  20. this is good. totally on board. yours is the only blog I check every day and your honesty is what keeps me coming back. and your flings. I always end up spending all the moneys after those. the real Raleigh is my fave but I agree maybe could shake it up a little in terms of the styles and backgrounds of the people you're featuring. and would you consider expanding to other cities...may I suggest nashville.

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  21. Love the personal stuff! My best friend lives in Raleigh and every time I visit her I think, "Why don't we ALL live in Raleigh?!?!"

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  22. Yessss you’re back. I want you to be back for real like the good old days but the new you. There’s no one like a Jamie and that’s what I’ve always loved about you. You’re finds and writing are like no other. I feel like everyone headed to Instagram because it was free of ads and now it’s oversaturated so make blogging with a hint of ad cool again - you did it once! Do it again!

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  23. Girl, let it all hang out!

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  24. I love your personal stuff more than anything and honestly, even your sponsored posts always seem like they have a touch of personal in them. My favorites are when you just drop a paragraph or two about an article you read or just what's been on your mind. Keep it up! You're becoming the only blog I look at every morning!

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  25. I'm catching up with blogs today so dropping in belatedly to say your blog is one of my all time faves. I'm up for whatever you're interested in talking about. Affiliate links (at the rate you currently do them and prob even a bit more) are not an issue for me at all. I think it only makes sense that you'd be compensated for all your work. I also love the personal stuff - whatev you're willing to share. Thanks for the blog! Love, love, love it!

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  26. Of course we've all changed! I think I'm one of your readers from the beginning and your blog consistently remains my favorite (there's soooo much out there). I'm from Raleigh but live in DC and you keep my hopes alive that if I ever decide to return, I could find my curious quirks. It's not just the stuff you share but the way you've chosen to honestly break the mold and be fully you- it comes through. It's hard and it's cool and it's brave. The real Raleigh houses are my favorites (love all the random Q & A's) and anything you post is interesting. Keep it honest and just keep doing it!!!

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